Style and Styling

How to Tie a Square Scarf…

Without the Babushka Vibe!

Happy day, dear reader!

Thank you so much for visiting with me today! There are literally millions of places you could be on the internet right now, and I feel privileged that you are spending a few minutes with me… I wish I could have you all over for a coffee! And a cookie. Mmmmm. Cookie.

If you’ve been here before, you have probably picked up that I love me a great accessory. Especially a lovely scarf! I don’t know when it started, but somewhere along the line a scarf became a real signature item for me.

Unfortunately, many women think a square scarf is limiting… Or associate it with grandma, or business suits from the 80’s, or air hostesses. (No offense meant to air hostesses!)

One of the tricks to make working with a square scarf easy is starting on the right foot. With a scarf, that’s the fold. Many people start by folding the scarf into a triangle and rolling it up from there. This strategy leaves a slippery mess that will unroll and slide about. The basic fold for a square scarf is called a bias fold. A scarf holds together better in a bias fold. Let’s talk through some different scarf sizes and the bias fold below!

The book pile on the nightstand is hubby’s… Note to Self: Next time look more carefully at the background!

Now that you have that scarf folded on the bias, you can wear it in any of the ways you tie an oblong (or Pashimina style scarf)! So go find one of those silky square scarves hiding in the back of your drawer or closet, and let’s practice!

If you like the little neckerchief style scarf that’s been on trend since spring 2019, here’s a quick Facebook Live video from ages ago that demonstrates a few ways to tie a neckerchief while avoiding the Boy Scout look. You can use any of these same ties for a large silk scarf, too!

Please remember this was FB Live, and have pity on my video skills… Thanks!

Yes, that is a skeleton around my neck! (It was just about Halloween.)

In the snaps below, you can see a variety of different scarf types. Everything from small and large squares, to a woolly oblong, and even a long skinny scarf… You can learn more about different kinds of scarves (and why they are instant style stars) in Style Staple #6: A Scarf You Love. It takes a little playing around to find the tying style that best suits your personality, dexterity, and lifestyle. But just because it takes a little time, doesn’t mean it’s not worth the effort!

So, how about you? What’s your favorite kind of scarf? What’s your default method for tying it? Or do scarves scare you? I know some people feel like they are being strangled any time they wear a scarf of collar. Is that your situation? Do tell me your scarf quandries and questions in the comments. I love to hear from you!

Stylishly yours,


  • Morglaz

    Ok i ended up here by randomly trying to find a nice way to tie one of my ribbons and then you appeared and
    You are so great, and terribly nice I just love how gentle you are when you speak ^^ thank you very much for this moment.
    I’ll go with an asymetric windsor today for my guided tour with Belgians, and I will be bold enough to rock it without blushing !

  • Kay

    I love scarves, and I’d guess I have at least 40 of them! They’re perfect for adding color and/or warmth to an outfit! They can instantly change the look of an outfit. Since I’m petite and small framed, large jewelry can overpower me, but a scarf is usually perfect. I’m not crazy about infinity scarves, and usually wear a scarf draped around my neck and
    loosely knotted in the front.

    • closetplayadmin

      Thank you for visiting, Kay! It’s lovely to meet another scarfaholic! I understand feeling overpowered by large pieces; it can happen with scarves, too. Especially those enormous (and totally cozy) blanket scarves.

  • Leslie Susan Clingan

    YOU are a natural. I cannot imagine trying to do this looking into a camera. You did so well and your tips are great. I love these little hankie type scarves. Just bought one at H&M so your video has been pinned for future reference. Love the bow!!

    • closetplayadmin

      What a treat to see you today, Leslie! I’m still working on getting comfortable on chatting to the “camera.” Now to get some editing skills… Glad the video was helpful! Feel free to share, and I hope to see your new scarf on your blog. See you there!

  • Lise

    Thanks for this! I tend to prefer longer scarves that I wrap once or twice around my neck and leave two long tails in the front. This was helpful though.

    • closetplayadmin

      Thanks for visiting and commenting, Lise! Glad to be of help! It’s always good to have an extra trick in your toolbox…

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